Voices…Which One to Listen to

I  had a companion inside me that was so powerful that I believed in him and did just about anything he told me.   What he told me was different from everything else I was taught at home growing up or at church or school.

He told me I was special and that meant I could do whatever I wanted to do without consequences because of that. Others had to follow the rules, but not me. But I had to keep it a secret because all those other people out there would hurt me if they knew what I was up to.

And what I wanted was SEX!  Anyway, any time, with whoever I could take advantage of, whatever I had to say or do.  He told me it would be fun, that I was “entitled”, that why not – it wasn’t going to hurt me or anyone else – just a little fun!  All guys were doing it!

And for the next 40 years, I did it.  How could I not notice the pain I put myself and others through?  Relationships one after another end in disaster, incredible misery, night after night of one-night stands. And still, I believed!  There was no doubt I was out of my mind, insane. Everyone saw it, knew – only I didn’t catch on.

Until the last catastrophe, the pain I never felt before, threatening my life, my career, my guilt, and shame exploded out of me. And another voice talked to me – a different, softer voice…”Omigod! I am a sex addict! And the voice kept talking to me – thru all the pain and seemingly endless suffering. That voice gently guided me to a therapist, to 12 Steps, to a sponsor.

It’s been over 3 1/2 years of sobriety now, the salvation of a wonderful relationship, a new joy in working and living. When that voice speaks, no matter what other voices are screaming at you – listen to it. That’s your Higher Power, saving you, saving me, from ourselves. And a different life of wonder, clarity, and joy will open to you.