Sharing…The Gift Of Recovery

One of the most natural things to do in the world is to share our feelings. Whether we’re are mad, sad, and happy or glad sharing our feelings is a natural response for human beings. Then there is addiction. That black cloud that envelopes our lives. All of a sudden healthy sharing stops. Sideways sharing begins…we growl at our partners, our children. We kick the dog. I remember becoming the monster my wife became afraid of when I was in my addiction. I scared her terribly. The guilt and shame drove my feelings to dark levels. I lashed out verbally in abusive tantrums. Then a miracle happened, I found recovery and all my shame and guilt slipped away. I began to naturally share once again. Each time the shame and guilt slipped further and further away. The rooms helped me a great deal. I found a safe place to share and be understood. Today I share my feelings and open my heart towards understanding. The gift of recovery.

10 thoughts on “Sharing…The Gift Of Recovery

  1. Sharing, hymmm I just told a brother in recovery tonight that I have diarrhea of the mouth because I share too easily and without boundaries.

    That has been such a lesson for me to honor my real feelings and to share them appropriately to the right people for the right reasons. In my addiction I shared for shock value, for pity, to be the “maiden in distress” and find my “hero”. I kind of still struggle with that one.

    But now in recovery, in my rigorous honesty I just try and be open especially with my husband. I think the best thing that I have gotten from recovery so far is the safety of the rooms to share some heavy crap honestly without reservations and to then trust I can share at home with my husband.

    It has been slow and it has been difficult so many times I will want to turn to anyone but him when it comes to sharing how I feel but I am learning to trust his love for me is real.

    On the other side of this coin…. listening to others share their feelings, their fear, their struggles, their ESH (experience, strength and hope) has given me a connection to a community and I can tell you this, I have spent my entire life purposefully staying away from meaningful connections.

    Anyway there is my babbling or my share 😉

  2. Ally good share… I have found security, honesty, and a sense of belonging in the rooms with my fellow brothers and sisters. I have never been honest with anyone let alone myself. But, as I’ve begun my recovery, I have found I have been the most honest I’ve ever been with myself and to others.. What a wonderful concept “SHARING”, all who have never experienced true sharing need to and those who have “KEEP SHARING”….Thanks for letting me share

  3. I NEVER shared my feelings. I might say that I talked a lot, but there were even times when I did not talk at all! I was always afraid of what people would think of me or what they would think of what I felt. Even in early recovery I carried some of these fears with me. It took me a lot of time and work to shed these fears. Through sharing in meetings and with people both in the program and in my life I have been able to grow emotionally and spiritually to the point where I can now share my feelings opening when I feel that I need to or want to. This sharing is truly a gift of recovery.

  4. Everyone in the program inspires me and comforts me. the sharing I hear makes me realize that there isn’t much I can say that would shock people yet sharing with a lot of effort and anxiety for me–many times I don’t share at meetings because I just feel too overwhelmed by my feelings and I don’t think I can get anything out in a coherent way–I become very afraid that I will burst into tears because of the shame I feel over the things I have done and still do and struggle with. I do feel safe among the people in the rooms and the progress they make gives me continued hope for my own recovery –I am not happy with where I am at in my own recovery but I have to remind myself of the progress I have made and the insights I have gained since coming into the program–I am grateful to the fellowship of this program–thank you for this site–Janine

  5. Sharing is the single greatest gift in the SAA rooms. The ability to be heard and validated is something that was missing in my life since childhood. I know when I first came into the program I was amazed how easily people spoke about their feelings, problems, needs, hopes, etc.
    I was encouraged to open up and share my experiences with others. It changed my life. After years of egotism, selfishness and self-absorption I was finally contributing to make this world a better place. Every Share we hear or give is a step in the journey of recovery and that is a blessing.
    Thank you G-d for SAA and its members.

  6. Sharing is truly a gift, on so many levels. Yes, there is the obvious sharing that occurs in the rooms of SAA. This sharing in and of itself is a blessing. To be able to walk into a room and feel like you belong and to feel like you can share what you need to and not be judged and feel safe and get out what you need to get out. Amazing. At the same time I see sharing as how I share my recovery with others. When I spend time with other addicts I am sharing my recovery with them and spreading the message of SAA. When I do so, I can share my experience about my journey so far and what has worked and what has not worked for me. Hopefully my sharing can help another addict. Finally on a completely different level, I see sharing as sharing who I am with other people. This is a whole new arena for me. I lived in a world where I was afraid of who I was and afraid to show myself to anyone. Today in recovery I am not that person anymore. Today I am proud of whom I am and I love myself and take care of myself. I am happy to share myself with the world and with anyone who wants to be around me. This has been one of the greatest gifts of my recovery and I pray every day to my Higher Power to give me one more day of sobriety so that I might continue on this journey because it is a journey that I like.

  7. Sharing – This is a gift for me this week. I have a lot going on and sharing is helping me through it. Sharing helps me because it helps me take the power away from things that might otherwise become obsessive or turn to compulsive. Sharing also helps me to check in with my fellows in the group so that they know what is going on with me and so that I can hold myself accountable. Sharing also allows me to share my experience, strength and hope, my story, in the rooms. By sharing my story or parts of my story, or parts of my experience as it relates to the topic at hand, I often feel better about myself because it allows me to see how far I have come in my program in these past 4 years. One of the most important things about sharing is to share when I don’t want to share. Because if I don’t want to share, that usually means that there is something going on. So I force myself to share and always I feel better as a result. So sharing is a gift of this program and I am grateful for how it works.

  8. I like to share this gift of recovery as much as I can. I do this with my sponsees and I do it with some of the guys that I see from the treatment center. Sometimes it is difficult because I have a lot on my plate and my first thought it that I do not have time. Like tomorrow. I have a call from a kid who wants to have coffee with me. He did not sound good on the phone and my first thought is about all the work that I have to do tomorrow. However, something does not sound right and this guy never calls me at night to ask me in advance to go for coffee so I know that I need to go. He is reaching out and that is good. But I need to remember one thing in all of this: I have to give it away to keep it. If I am too busy to take any time to work with anyone, I will stop “giving it away.” Then what happens? Do I lose it? This is the basis of the entire program. I am not willing to take that chance. I know what has worked for me in the past and my program has almost always been made up partly of working with others. So I need to keep doing it. I need to be of service to others. I need to be of service to my Higher Power. I need to remember the 3rd step prayer where I am supposed to help others bear witness to thy power, thy love and thy way of life. I can only do this if I am sharing the gift of recovery.

  9. When I don’t share my recovery, I have learned that it means that I believe there is nothing good enough in me to share with others. It is my addict telling me how bad, how evil, how misguided and hopeless I am. I need to go back to meetings, my counselors, my books to remind myself that I am a new person today, on my way to becoming an ever better person. That nothing I have done or thought has disqualified me in the eyes of God, or of my brothers and sisters in recovery. It is a time for me to remind myself that I am a whole person, maybe with flaws, but God’s child nonetheless. When I do this, I need to share this small triumph with my brothers and sisters in recovery.

  10. Sharing was never a problem for me in my addiction. I shared everything to tittilate or to boost my ego or impress or whatever sick reason there was in my disease I was always sharing and always inappropriately. Today in recovery I share with my sponsor, my therapist, my brothers and sisters and my family. Most of all my wife. But I share now to be transparent and honest and open with those that matter and those that love me and care for me and today that is who I am. I share when I am happy or sad or hurt or upset or joyful. I am open honest and giving now. My shares are not to do anything but live in an open honest trusting life. The amazing thing is that all the worry in the past about sharing and being afraid of what people would think is now gone. I know when I share with these people they accept me they accept what I say and they believe me because they know who I am now and how I live in recovery. Open honest and transparent with no shame or guilt but acceptance.

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